From Our Founder

 Hi friends!

Several years ago, I was fortunate enough to be a part of the creation of a school-based mental health program in Georgia. At the time, I worked for Georgia HOPE, an incredible community-based provider serving kids and adults across Northwest Georgia.  Georgia HOPE was one of the first recipients of GA’s APEX program to expand access to mental health care in schools.

One of the acronyms I learned during my time in school-based mental health was PBIS. Have you heard of it?

It stands for Positive Behavioral Interventions and Supports and it’s an evidence-based framework for supporting students and schools.

One of the main tenants of PBIS encourages teachers and caregivers to highlight the positive behaviors of children. The research shows that publically acknowledging positive behaviors in children helps reduce the unwanted behaviors (and precipitating reprimands) that create an unhelpful, punitive environment. If you are curious, you can read more about this approach here.

I was reminded of this concept recently when I was listening to this Armchair Expert podcast episode with Dr. Harold S. Koplewicz, a leading child psychiatrist and the founder of the Child Mind Institute.

While not using the term PBIS, Dr. Koplewicz describes the same concept. He states that he regularly encourages the caregiver(s) of his patients to spend two weeks actively trying to “catch the child being good” while ignoring undesired behavior. He said, often, the results are remarkable, as children begin responding to the praise with more positive behavior and less unwanted behavior.

Anytime I learn new insight about how to love kids better, I think of the kiddos in my world – my seven nieces and nephews. 

My 10-year-old niece, Ava, is a wee-bit hyperactive. She’s the oldest of her two siblings and she has a tendency to dominate my time when I come in town for a visit.

This picture is a good example of her level of excitability, taken when I visited her third-grade class a couple of years ago.

I adore Ava and I have a tendency to let her steamroll conversations with me because I simply can’t get enough of her.

However, I often worry that my response sends a message to her siblings – my precious nephew, Caleb and adorable niece, August – that they are less deserving of my attention. I’m also conscious that I’m not doing Ava any favors by letting her call all the shots when it comes to my time.

Ava Facetimes me pretty much every day. Whenever August or Caleb try to get a few words in, she tells them that she thinks she hears their mother calling them from upstairs 😂. This often leads me to say, “Ava, let Caleb have a turn.” or “Ava, August is trying to say something – let her talk.”

I’d love to incorporate what I learned from Dr. Koplewicz and look instead for opportunities to catch her waiting her turn, and then offer, “Wow, Ava thank you so much for sitting quietly for a couple of minutes so that August could have a turn!” or “Ava, I see you trying so hard to let Caleb talk and I appreciate it!”

I’m eager to see if this has any impact on her tendency to dominate the conversation in the future. 

I know many of you specialize in working with children – I’m curious if you have any thoughts on PBIS or the approach that Dr. Koplewicx recommends. 

If so, I’d love to hear your thoughts!

 

Warmly,

Rachel

 

Rachel McCrickard, LMFT

CEO/Founder

rachel@motivohealth.com 

 
 
 
Rachel McCrickard, LMFT

Rachel McCrickard, LMFT

Rachel is the CEO & Founder of Motivo, a HIPAA-compliant video platform connecting mental health therapists to the clinical supervision hours needed for licensure. She's also a LMFT, and brings her years of experience as both a therapist and a supervisor to her vision for Motivo. She also is a huge fan of pizza and yoga, in that order.

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