When I think back on how my relationship with these women impacted me over the last year, one specific word comes to mind: healing.
Last week, while I was listening to this Brené Brown podcast, I came to understand why my relationship with these women has been so healing for me.
The Unlocking Us episode featured Oprah and Dr. Bruce Perry, as they discussed their new book, “What Happened to You? Conversations on Trauma, Resilience, and Healing.”
I think this book should actually be required reading for all therapists, because it goes into the nuances of “little t trauma” and “big T Trauma“, and explores how we can leverage the things that happened to us, in a way that builds resilience for us.Dr. Perry and Oprah also discuss the concept of post-traumatic wisdom – exploring how the brain can repair itself and build new pathways that did not exist before.
The key to this repair? Relationships.
Dr. Perry states, “The contractor for the reconstruction process is relationships.” He goes on to say, “You can have the best therapist in the world but if you only see them once a week, and you have nobody else in your life, you are never going to get better. It’s all about relationships. Relationships are the agent of change.”
My relationship with Sam, Jenny, and Erin has certainly been an agent of change in my life this past year. Like most everyone, we’ve all four experienced little t traumas or big T Traumas in our life.
But through the healing power of relationships, we’ve been able to build new pathways to ground and center us, to find wisdom, and to build resilience and healing.
How about you? Does this bring any relationships to mind that have been agents of change in your life?
Or, perhaps you have a particular client in mind – how might they develop relationships that can aid in their path toward healing?
As always, if you have anything you’d like to share, I’d love to hear it!
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